LOVE ETHIC RESOURCES & LINKS






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  • Fromm, Erich. The Art of Loving. New York: Harper and Rowe, 1956.
  • Buscaglia, Leo. Love:  What Life is All About. New York: Random House, 1996.
  • Barclay, William. New Testament Words. Louisville: Westminster/John Knox Press, 2000. See his discussion on Agape.
  • Templeton, John Marks. Agape Love - A Tradition Found in Eight World Religions. Templeton Foundation Press, 1999.



And let us not forget that the full and proper exercise of the love ethic includes a competent love of self:

  • Lamb, Sharon. Before Forgiving: Cautionary Views of Forgiveness in Psychotherapy. New York: Oxford University Press, 2002.

  • Murphy, Jeffrie G. Getting Even: Forgiveness and Its Limits. New York: Oxford University Press, 2003.

  • Alberti, Robert, and Emmons, Michael. Your Perfect Right, 8th ed.  Atascadero: Impact, 2001.

    Considered the bible of assertiveness, an essential group of techniques for loving yourself, by not allowing others to injure you, psychologically or otherwise.

  • Blanton, Brad, PhD. Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth, Revised ed.  Sparrowhawk Publications, 2005.

    While somewhat meandering, perhaps not organized as tightly and logically as I'd like, and plagued by vulgarity that is somewhat superfluous, this is an extremely valuable book, even seminal, promulgating a message critical to human health, both psychological and physical. The message is:  do not hide, bury, suppress, or otherwise fail to communicate your feelings to other people. If you have something to say to someone--say it. Humanity is plagued by over-thinking, and a disease of rationalization for the sake of maintaining (a false) decorum, causing the internalization of anger and other feelings which leads to mental discomfort, at least, and mental and physical illness, or even death, at worst.

    I find this thesis easily compelling based on the twin grounds of intellect and personal experience. However, the missing link in Dr. Blanton's thesis and consequent prescription is love. This is because, as it takes "two to Tango," attempting to communicate feelings, especially anger, to another person may produce an uneven or poor result if the other individual is not willing to listen, at least, and apologize or otherwise reconcile, at best. While most of us accept the poor substitute "telling someone off" as our only recourse to ameliorate or otherwise satisfy anger, in fact without a minimum of cooperation in the form of a willingness to listen on the part of they whom we wish to "tell off," even this common and basic action will remain unavailable, or unsatisfactorily executed. And of course, the most satisfying resolution to anger or similar feelings occurs when the antagonist listens to our grievance and then apologizes.

    Still, I maintain my strong recommendation of Dr. Blanton's book, since his thesis comprises fully one half of my requisite paradigm for human health:  self-love.






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